What is It Like to Be an Aspie?

Asperger’s Syndrome

Defining Asperger's Syndrome is a complex task, as it involves understanding a range of subtle and unique characteristics. It is often described as a personality type characterized by a lower emotional empathy, but this does not mean it is a notably severe or flawed condition. Different scholars and researchers offer varying perspectives on the subject. For instance, Krevelen does not emphasize the biological issues associated with certain aspects of Autism, such as those discussed by Kanner. Kanner's patients were more likely to have language idiosyncrasies and other neurological features, which can be dissociative in nature, leading to a lack of the psychotic features often associated with autism. Such characteristics include situational mutism, dissociative learning, and other neurological traits. Despite challenges, many argue that Asperger’s Syndrome reflects a normal variation in human temperament and intelligence.

Understanding Aspies

Studying Aspies is fascinating yet challenging for neurotypicals. People who might have been diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome often exhibit a cluster of symptoms, including high IQ levels. This is based on my extensive research and interactions with individuals who my sample size might be slightly biased by these high-functioning individuals. I've read countless books and articles about Aspies and found John Elder Robison to be a notably prolific writer about his experiences. He vividly describes his life as an Aspie and the many challenges he faced.

Robison, who is both brilliant and adventurous, knows his intelligence but struggles with feeling different. He manages to hide the quirks of his brain but still feels discomfort. His journey, especially as depicted in his book "Switched On," where he underwent experimental brain treatments, showcases the depth of his struggles. This experience was dangerous and yet transformative, highlighting the complexity of the Aspie experience.

Characteristics of Aspies

Aspies often display a set of characteristics that can be both intriguing and challenging. The internet is rife with lists of traits, but it is important to note that these lists are indicative rather than definitive. No Aspie necessarily possesses every symptom, and no single symptom applies to every individual. As a result, the previous classification of Asperger’s Syndrome as a specific diagnosis has evolved, and it is now considered a subtype of Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD).

Some common characteristics include:

High Intelligence: Many Aspies exhibit high IQ levels and a deep understanding of specific subjects. Difficulty with Social Interaction: Forming and maintaining social relationships can be challenging due to differences in social cues and communication styles. Obsessive Interests: Aspies often have intense and focused interests that can consume much of their time and energy. Formal Language and Literal Interpretation: Many Aspies tend to use formal language and may interpret language literally, which can lead to misunderstandings in social contexts. Hyper Sensitivity to Sensory Inputs: Sensitive to sounds, smells, and other sensory information, which can sometimes lead to discomfort.

It is essential to recognize these characteristics not as deficits but as unique strengths, especially when considering the vast diversity of Aspie experiences. This diversity highlights the importance of personalized approaches to understanding and accommodating Aspies in various settings.

For those who have experienced "bad parenting," it's important to remember that this is just one perspective. While many Aspies do face challenges early in life, not all can be attributed to poor parenting. The complexities of development and the uniqueness of individual experiences make it crucial to approach each person's journey with understanding and empathy.

In conclusion, being an Aspie is a rich and multifaceted experience that requires both understanding and appreciation. As we continue to learn more about Asperger’s Syndrome and its influence on the Autistic Spectrum, we can foster a more inclusive and supportive society where differences are celebrated and embraced.