Staying Positive After Not Getting a Job: A Mindset Shift

Thank you for your question. In responding to it, I discovered a line of thought that I hadn’t realised before. I will begin as a I began see the bold text at the bottom for the new thought.

If you define yourself as jobless, you will feel and think according to the definition. Our experience of life takes the form of our prejudices - our passionately held beliefs. Our attention goes to what is highly charged and we can always find evidence to point to as to why we are right to think as we do. We may be right or not. The question is: is the way that we are thinking going to assist our movement in our preferred direction or does it go against it?

For example, you may not have a job at the moment, but is an identification with this current condition all that you are living? You might say how do I stay positive through being thirsty, or how do I stay positive through watching television, or how do I stay positive while reading social media posts or the listening to the weather report. If you decide that your bias serves you better when it is open to what is creatively possible, life will soon tell you whether that is a good idea or not.

People may say whatever they want to say, cruel or kind. Life has to be tested on its own merits and with an open mind to discover what is really possible. In life so far, there was only one occasion when life shot me down when I decided to keep an even mood not positive exactly, just that I didn’t want to cry—it was a very serious situation—in a hospital—and I had some practical things to do immediately afterwards and I wanted to be composed. I took deep breaths to be quel the impulse to cry and it was too strong so I hyperventilated. People thought that I was hysterical—I wasn’t hysterical. It was just that I couldn’t hold back from crying because it was just impossible under those circumstances. Within a few minutes, I had recovered my composure and was able to do what was required next.

New Thought:

How our mind operates is that we tend to worry more about things when we are not really being forced into taking them seriously by life. When there is a really serious immediate situation, we cannot afford to be negative and our life systems' innate intelligence takes over. Negativity in such circumstances is dangerous in itself. Our conscious bias needs to be towards life—otherwise, we are suffering the drama not trauma.

You can decide to trust your process and discover for yourself what unfolds. Being 'negative' will add to the issues, not reduce them. So, unless you are having some new insights—and it is rarely the case when the thinking is around negative feeling because awareness contracts and the mind fabricates what seems truthful but isn’t—it is in your interests to at least try to distract yourself if your thoughts are repeating against your desire.

Some degree of struggle or suffering in life is par for the course. So too is working with uncertainty. So the question is not really about positive or negative; it is about finding your way to embracing the best that life has to offer or suffering worse than is necessary.

Using Positive Mindset to Overcome Adversity

It is essential to embrace a positive mindset in the face of rejection and disappointment. Here are some strategies to help you maintain a positive outlook during challenging times:

Focus on what you can control: Instead of dwelling on the things you cannot change, focus on what you can control, such as your attitude and actions. Seek support: Reach out to friends, family, or a professional to help you process your emotions and find new opportunities. Practice gratitude: Regularly acknowledging what you are grateful for can shift your focus from the negative to the positive aspects of your life. Set new goals: Use the time as an opportunity to reassess your career goals and set new, achievable objectives. Stay active: Engage in physical activities that can help release endorphins and improve your mood.

Conclusion

In conclusion, maintaining a positive mindset is critical in the face of job rejection. By recognizing and changing our thought patterns, we can transform our experience and find new opportunities. Remember, life is a process, and being 'negative' only adds to your suffering. So, try to embrace the best that life has to offer, or at least, distract yourself from negative thoughts to find new paths.

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