10 Unwritten Rules of Being a K-pop Fan
As a K-pop fan, it's important to understand and follow a set of unwritten rules to ensure a healthy and respectful experience. Here are 10 key rules to keep in mind:
1. Do Not Be a Toxic Supporting Member (Solo Stan)
Key Point: Show respect by not supporting only a specific member to the exclusion of others. If you prefer a solo member, that's fine, but don't attack or disrespect the rest of the group.
2. Refrain from Shipping Idols
Key Point: If two idols are not in a relationship, it’s best to avoid any speculation or projections. Such activities can be uncomfortable and disrespectful for the idols.
3. Do Not Feel Special for Supporting Lesser-Known Groups
Key Point: Supporting a group with fewer fans does not make you unique or more special. Respect all idols and their fans equally.
4. Avoid Drama and Focus on the Music
Key Point: K-pop is about music and entertainment. Engaging in drama and conflicts is counter-productive and unproductive.
5. Recognize Idols as Humans
Key Point: Idol members are human and can have flaws. Treating them as perfect beings might be unrealistic and disrespectful.
6. Stay Away from Fan Fiction
Key Point: Fan fiction can be inaccurate and might offend some fans. It's best to stay away from such content.
7. Balance Your Time With K-pop
Key Point: K-pop is a hobby and not your entire life. Maintain a balance to ensure a healthy and enjoyable experience for everyone.
8. Enjoy Being a Fan
Key Point: Make the most of your fandom. Remember, K-pop will be a part of your life for a limited time.
9. Respect Idols' Privacy and Dignity
Key Point: Just like anyone else, idols deserve privacy. Do not harass or invade their personal space.
10. Respect Differences and Cultures
Key Point: Cultures and opinions vary. Respect and understand the diverse perspectives of different fans and idols.
Bonus: Additional Guidelines for K-pop Fans
Do Not Infantilize East Asian Idols
Key Point: Treat K-pop idols as adults and avoid derogatory labels that perpetuate stereotypes. East Asians are as complex and nuanced as any other group of people.
Avoid Body-Shaming
Key Point: Idol members have the right to their own bodies and personal choices. Avoid criticizing or shaming their physical appearance unless they themselves bring it up.
Respect Cultural Differences and Sensitivities
Key Point: During-scandal situations can be sensitive. Support victims and encourage learning, not confrontation. Promote understanding and respect for different backgrounds and experiences.
K-pop is About Music, Not Life
Key Point: While K-pop can be a significant part of your life, it's essential to focus on your health and well-being. Enjoy K-pop without letting it take over your life.
Do Not Be a Sasaeng Star
Key Point: Idols are stars, and like all stars, they have the right to privacy. Support them from afar without harassing or invading their personal lives.
Stay Away from Fan Wars
Key Point: Fan wars often lead to unnecessary conflicts among fans and can negatively affect the idols. It's best to avoid such controversies and focus on the positive aspects of fandom.
Dating is a Personal Choice
Key Point: Your fandom is not tied to a specific idol's personal life. Allow them their independence and respect their choices.
Do Not Gatekeep
Key Point: True fandom comes from a passion for the music. Buying merchandise or following additional idol groups is a personal decision and not a requirement to be a fan.
Do Not Feel Ashamed for Liking K-pop
Key Point: Enjoying music is a personal choice. Avoid letting others dictate what you like or dislike.
Always Be Respectful
Key Point: Respect is a fundamental value in any relationship, including fandom. Treat others with kindness and empathy.